Why Are You Here?
Maybe you find yourself here for reasons that I found myself on a page like this three years ago – when I first started looking around for solutions. I really needed to make some changes in my life (we’ll talk about those in a minute), after working in corporate as a creative for almost two decades I was looking for something more fulfilling.
I love this quote from Marianne Williamson – it pretty much sums up exactly how I feel, perhaps you can relate…
“We ask ourselves, ‘Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?’ Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world.”
— Marianne Williamson
As creative professional women the buck stops with us…
- we’re the one’s up all night perfecting the work presentation, while still having to pull ourselves together to drop the kids off at school in the morning.
- we’re the ones who have to finagle our business trip itineraries so that we can get back in time for the youngest ones first dance recital.
- we’re the ones left having to figure out how to co-ordinate sitters and day camps during the long summer break, while having no time to take a break ourselves (don’t you wonder how those twenty-something moms keep it all together…?!).
Or perhaps (like me) you’re fortunate enough to have partner to take on some of these roles…but deep down you have a gnawing guilt, because as your week slides into 80 hours your kids are growing into individuals that you barely know.
Or maybe you don’t have kids (all the better to enjoy those Viking River cruises that PBS causes us to crave…well, me anyway :) ).
But just when we thought we were going to catch a break, it turns out that we’re expected to jump in and figure it out when our elderly parents need attention (how the heck did that happen – they used to be the one’s looking after us?!).
Somehow it falls on us to figure out how mom’s going to get to her weekly senior gatherings, now that driving is no longer an option.
And we get to explain to the bank teller (yet again) that pop can’t recall his pass codes… (but refuses to let anyone else take over the reigns – ugh!).
Even your body gets in on the action with a cry for attention (lawd knows it’s time – and you’re not getting any younger). The “use it or lose it factor” is a real thing right…?
Or if you happen to be a guy and most of this applies to you, just pretend like I’m talking to you :) (Know that you’re the exception not the rule and we’re happy to welcome you into the fold.)
Or maybe you just know that it’s time to find something that’s more fulfilling than what you’ve been doing for the last decade (or even two).
Are you ready for a different way of living?
I have 16 key questions for you to ask yourself…
Every day you find yourself pulled in so many different directions it’s hard to catch your breath. At times it seems like you just can’t win.
Working untold hours just to keep up, can make you feel like you’re neglecting your life. But when you’re not working you feel guilty that you’re not doing enough.
Remember the days when we thought high tech gadgets would make our lives easier? Hmmm yeah, how’s that working for you….
Now it just feels like it’s impossible to ever truly switch off – there’s so much to do, but never enough hours in the day to do it.
Sure, you’d love to slow down and smell the roses – who wouldn’t? (I know I sure wanted to…) but seriously – who has the time?
Sometimes it feels like you’ve been running on empty for so long you hardly know who YOU are any more.
You used to love your work.
It was your passion, your purpose – you saw yourself on a mission to make a difference in the world. But somehow it hasn’t quite turned out like that and you can’t understand what happened to your life.
Somewhere along the way you lost yourself in the shuffle putting out fires and taking care of everyone else’s needs.
And while to the outside world you appear to be the picture of success (people even envy you as you fly off to the latest destination on your ‘business’ trips) inside some days you’re barely holding it together.